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Do you know what happens when you raise your child with a victim mentality?

Do you know what happens when you raise your child with a victim mentality?


Do you know what happens when you raise your child with a victim mentality?
Some parents see themselves as victims of unfortunate circumstances. Their belief about their
inability to succeed sprouts sometime in their childhood, and as mimicking parents they pass this
belief to their children. When children start believing that they are victims of mentality there are
serious circumstances.
If any of the below statements’ resonates with you please reach out to us for a complimentary
session!
– You think someone or some unfortunate circumstances prevent you from being your best.
– You think other people are generally luckier and fortunate than you are .
– You think your child’s mis-behavior is the proof you are being punished.
– You make excuses for your child’s failures or shortcomings.
– You feel sorry for your child.
– You spend more time talking to your child about problems than solutions.
– You think your child is helpless sometimes.
– You spend a lot of time complaining about other people’s behavior and how it affects you.

Discipline is necessary for every household. The objective of discipline is to assist kids choose
acceptable behaviors and learn self-control. Establishing house-rules help your kids understand your
expectations. What are some of your house rules?

Want to instill good behavior into your children? Does repeated scolding work? Compliments can
work wonders as compared to scolding. Make a point of finding something to praise your child every
day.
3 proven and experienced ways how can you praise your child to raise confident and successful
children.
1. Praise sincerely and honestly- Parents sometimes praise children purposely to boost their self-
esteem and encourage certain behaviour in them. But we need to keep in mind that if praises are
not perceived as sincere and honest, children won’t feel very encouraged.
DONT SAY: You did very well and I am sure you will do well next time also.
DO SAY: I like the solution you came up with.

2. Be specific and descriptive when you praise it sounds genuine- It’s important that you mention a
specific aspect of the child’s performance and describe what behaviour led to good results.
When parents are specific and descriptive, children feel more connected and they feel that you care.
DONT SAY: Good JOB!
DO SAY: your answer was thoughtful and you nailed the answer very well.
3. Avoid Controlling or Conditional Praise- When parents use praise to set higher expectations kids
are usually burdened with the expectations to do better. It’s great to motivate children to do better
but not with praises. Praises which are control or set goals are not positive praises. Conditional
praise also acts as a superficial motivation and reduces kid’s inner motivation. Children are more
prone to achievement-based helplessness in the face of subsequent difficulties.
DONT SAY: Good job! I bet you can do better next time.
DO SAY: I like how you’ve drawn this picture using bright colours.

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